Hi there. You are not alone. I have been going through the same Rollercoaster the last 16 years. I feel sad that I don't remember happy moments with my friends and family and feel an outsider when people relive a good experience. I don't have had many negative experiences so my lack of memory doesn't really bring me anything good. But over time I tried to worry less and enjoy the moment more.. Bu even though I try it still hurts me... On the other hand.. I always thought I had a early form of Alzheimer... Aphantasia seems a better problem than that.. So in a way I am a. Bit relieved 😌 Thank you for sharing  

I'm the exact same way and after realising I do feel a bit empty and that I'm missing out on a crucial human experience of looking back on memories and feeling my past emotions. However like Nicole said I think it's probably better to focus on the present and not think too negatively about this. I find that having pictures to remind me of people, places and days really helps me though. 

I do not have many memories of past times.  I "remember" some events from childhood if we have photos, but I only have a few scattered memories otherwise and these are not visual memories.  I cannot picture my mother's face or my children's faces or remember what they looked like as babies or little children.  I don't feel empty or emotionless, but I do live in the present.  I don't plan ahead much, and maybe that is related to not being able to visualize.  I do not like to rearrange furniture or change much about my home.  I think that is also related to not being able to picture what it would look like if I moved things around or painted a different color.  

I kind of understand what you mean, my memories are very vague, and sometimes I wonder if the parts that are detailed are remembered as a story I've told rather than an event that happened which calls their accuracy into question. Sometimes, like you, I'm glad I forget things easily as it makes coping and moving on from negative experiences easier, but at the loss of happy memories I'm not sure if it's a fair trade. I've started keeping a journal, not of daily events, but anything particular that I want to remember, I put as much detail as I need in, sometimes I write out approximations of whole conversations, or write the whole thing out like a story or fairy tale, and that helps me since I might not remember it myself but I can get a ghost of the emotion from reading about it. I also focus on the emotional aspect of what memories I do hold, so I might not remember what exactly made me so happy last week but I remember that I was that happy. Kind of tying into that is learning to appreciate the moment. I'm always putting aside a new tea, or saving a meme, or writing down something I want to tell my friends, because having that little token to remind me I'll see them again soon lets me anticipate seeing them again. I never let myself regret that I won't remember what's happening now, because joy may be ephemeral but that's no reason to look down on it. Everything is temporary to us. I get to admire the trees anew every day because to me they might as well be a different set of trees, I never have to be bored by the scenery from my train since it might be familiar but I don't get to see it except for in that moment.  In the other direction I know difficult moments will soon be distant memory, no one can yell forever, disasters must relax after a while, things return to normal, these moments only enhance the excitement of seeing friends, or the beauty of the sun setting as I make my way home. I keep a seperate log of things I need to remember, health problems or customers who might be trouble later, I don't read that unless I have to. Sometimes it's difficult, there's a lot of things I wish I remembered from my childhood, or even just last year, but once you train yourself out of looking for long-term detailed memories and focus on enjoying the moment it's a lot easier. That said, it could also de a symptom of depression, which some people certainly feel upon delving into their aphantasia. Either way I hope this has helped a little bit and given you a few ideas? Accepting the fleeting nature of all emotion and experience is difficult but I found it rewarding.

I am curious as well if I have a memory deficit in combination with aphantasia.